After 19 Years of Marriage, This is My Top Core Value

Next week, my husband and I will celebrate our 19th wedding anniversary! Like many couples, we have a unique story of the blossoming of our relationship way back in 1997. And it’s fun to think about that moment we sat down together on a piano bench and a crazy glory from heaven fell on us. From that moment, we pretty much knew we’d be together forever. For reals.

Relationships don’t always happen that way. And relationships don’t always stay together for 19 {and counting} years.

As much as I would love to say that married life has been a picture of bliss since that Flag Day on June 14th, 1997, it hasn’t. Absolutely, the good days outweigh the bad. But we’ve had our share of struggles, violations of each other and a couple yelling matches too.

In nineteen years, we’ve learned some things about marriage and relationship in general. Because I want to keep this “Whimsical Wednesdays” summertime post short and sweet, I’ll just share one of my top not-so-secrets to a great marriage.

There’s a great line from the movie “The Family Man” (2000) that my husband and I keep at the forefront of our marriage…

“I choose us.”

There are choices out there. They can be as small as deciding to make a big deal about how the dishwasher is loaded or as big as your response to the cute guy at work flirting with you. But we all have the choice every day to chose our spouse and to chose whether we will love them well. No matter our disagreements, our differences, and the hard days, when you just want to give up – at the end of the day, we have to make the decision that, in my marriage, I choose us.

For me…

Us is more important than being right, Us is more important than temporary inconvenience, Us is more important than getting my own way, Us is more important than any other relationship on the planet. And I long to forever choose…US.

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