Day 13: Offering Up Control

As I continue to write on offering up, I realize how much of my letting go has to do with family. Those people that I love so dearly that I want to protect, to control, to make sure nothing bad happens. But we all know this is impossible and honestly, it’s not even healthy. So again, I share with you an offering up of control of my family.

When your kids are young, they depend on you to control their environment, to make sure they are safe, fed, warm and clean. In a healthy relationship, as they grow, there is a gradual letting go of that control as they become able to think and make decisions for themselves. They need to be able to make decisions, they need to be able to think for themselves. As much as we mama’s can resist it and push back against it, someday our children will be grown. They will leave the house, make their own lives, have their own relationships that we are not a part of. If we can succeed in letting them become powerful people as they are growing up under our roof, learning from making bad decisions, learning to rely on Jesus solely for peace, for comfort, for wisdom, the more successful they will be as they venture off into life on their own.

As much as I am a proponent for this, I still find times when I struggle with trying to control them or become fearful that bad things will happen if I let them out of my sight. It’s then that I have to remind myself that my kiddos belong first to Jesus and that I am just a steward of these precious gifts.

This is a pretty easy struggle to identify with concerning our kids but it also can carry over to our spouses. The enemy loves to sow doubt, suspicion and fear into our relationships and our marriages. We have to be careful that we don’t yield to his divisive ways and, out of fear, walk the way of trying to control the people we love most.

Holy Spirit is really an amazingly BIG God and has our own and our family’s best interest at the core of His heart. His love for each of us is vast. We can trust Him to take care of our family. Even when things happen that are scary or wrong or we don’t understand, He is the ultimate Restorer of all things. As we offer up control of our kids and our spouse, He steps in and can work His plan.

“People do their best making plans for their lives, but the Eternal guides each step.”   Proverbs 16:9 (The Voice)

***This is Day 13 of “31 Days of Offering Up” – part of the #write31days challenge. To read all the posts in order, please visit the overview page.***

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