(This is Day 7 of a 10 day series of Tips to Position Yourself for the Best Year Ever)
The seventh step to positioning ourselves for an amazing 2015 is to…
learn how to be vulnerable.
By definition the word ‘vulnerable’ means ‘capable of being wounded or hurt’… which is why it’s not widely adopted as a way of life. But in our shunning of being vulnerable, we have lost the art of true relationship. Over the decades, putting on our happy face, our Sunday clothes and our best manners have replaced authenticity and real relationship. I am pleading with this generation to come back to vulnerability and authenticity.
Being vulnerable in relationships looks like showing the good, the bad and the ugly. Saying ‘this is who I really am, these are my struggles’ brings the risk of someone deciding that your ugly is not worth their love. We are certainly capable of being hurt when we show our true colors but the reward of someone choosing to love us and walk with us despite our bad and ugly is far greater than any risk.
The Lord’s design is for us to do life together within community – the personal growth and success that can happen when we decide to be vulnerable with each other is far above anything that we will achieve being segregated out on our own. The enemy would have us feel like others would reject us if we show ‘that’ part of our life which keeps us alone in a personal pit. But if we will be brave and begin to bare our hearts with those around us, I believe there are so many that will chose to love and walk with us on our journey.
On the other side of the relationship, chose to be a lover. Someone who choses to love others through their pain and their ugly. Be an encouraging voice, extending love and grace as others share their hearts and struggles. If we will love each other and lift each other up with encouragement and prayer, we will all be better, healthier, stronger, and more whole in this life!